Most people I talk to don't want a divorce.
I've never met one who REALLY wanted to get a divorce.
Why? Because Divorce Sucks.
It sucks for YOU.
It sucks for your SPOUSE.
And, what most people don't realize is, it REALLY sucks for the KIDS! So the RIGHT thing to do is try and stop the divorce...
Not so much the LEGAL divorce, but more importantly the EMOTIONAL divorce that you and your spouse are feeling.
So here are five simple tips to get you back on the right track...
and the fast track...
to recovering your relationship and stopping your divorce.

• Realize the difference between the Legal Divorce, and the Emotional divorce.
  If you focus on stopping the divorce legally, you will actually be advancing the emotional divorce.
  The more you are stubborn about the divorce, and the more you try to fight it...
  the WORSE it will get.
  So, allow the legal divorce to go forward.
  Get a good lawyer to take care of you legally.
  Laws Don't Cause Divorce! Feelings Cause Divorce! Emotions Cause Divorce! Okay? So focus on stopping the divorce emotionally with the following few steps.
  
• As crazy as this may sound, if you want to stop your divorce, you must AGREE with it.
  You MUST get on the same level as your spouse.
  You must appear to them to be going along with the divorce.
  You must act as though you are just as happy getting a divorce as you were about getting married.
  What? Yeah! This seems counterintuitive, but it works.
  You will never win back your spouse's GOOD emotions, if they feel like you disagree with them about the divorce.
  
• Stop saying "I love you!" So many people try to fix their broken marriage by simply telling their spouse that they love them.
  That doesn't work at anything except pushing them farther away.
  If you want them to love YOU, you must withhold love from them.
  As long as you are showering them with love, they feel just fine about divorcing (or breaking up btw) you.
  When they feel you pulling away...
  when they start to feel like they are losing your love...
  they will start to pursue the love they are used to getting.
  Sound's backwards, but it works.
  Ever noticed how a magnets negative end attracts another magnets negative? Ever notice that it's almost impossible to put two positive ends of a magnet together? The same thing works in relationships.
  If you give them your positive side...
  you'll attract their negative and vice-versa.
  Works like a charm.
  
• Stop arguing.
  You don't need to win an argument to get them back.
  You don't have to convince them that you are right and they are wrong.
  Instead, agree with their feelings..
  ..
  even if you don't really agree.
  This will allow them to feel more comfortable about opening up to you.
  This will help you push through all of the stubbornness and hard-headedness.
  Stop arguing.
  
• Go out and have a good time.
  Make them see that you are happy without them.
  Remember dating in high school? Remember how EVERYONE wanted to be with the guy or girl who was on the football team or the head cheerleader? Why? Because they were interesting.
  You must become interesting...
  if you want to spark their interest again.
  
• Take back control of your emotions.
  Take ownership of the way you feel.
  They are not responsible if you feel depressed, right? We control our own emotions by how we think.
  So, to change how you feel, you must change how you are thinking.
  Stop thinking, "I'll never get them back.
  This Sucks.
  Life Sucks...
  " and so on.
  Instead focus your mind on winning them back.
  
• Create the illusion that YOU are leaving THEM, instead of it being the other way around.
  How? You can do this easily by following three simple steps.
  

1. Don't call them just to chat.
   Have a PURPOSE every time you call them...
   and make those occasions few and far between.
   Never call them several times a day.
   
2. Be the first to hang up.
   Always act like you have something else to do.
   Make it seem like you are too busy for them.
   
3. Quit saying you are sorry.
   When you say you are sorry over and over, you make yourself appear weak, and the victim of the divorce.
   Instead, apologize once if you have a legit reason to be sorry, and then let it go.
   Don't bring it up again.
   It only reminds them of why they left you in the first place.
   

Got all that? I sincerely hope that helps you get your husband or wife back in your life...
and in your arms!