Okay, so your days are spent sitting in the depths of depression because your relationship has come to an end. Your friends and family have told you to call your ex to try and patch things up. You have tried to win your ex boyfriend back this way, but it has only resulted in him avoiding you more than ever. What is wrong, why are you making no headway?

It's great that your friends and family are trying to help you, but the advice that they are giving you is very wrong. In fact, what they are telling you to do to win your ex boyfriend back, is exactly the opposite of what you should be doing.

You and he are very angry with each other at this point right? You are also both very hurt because of the really nasty things that you said to each other. Now there is no way that you and your ex can get together yet to try and sort out your problems.

It just won't work. You are both still too hurt and angry after the break up, and if you get together now, you will probably have another argument, which will mean that you are both even more miserable than before.

So, the answer to your problem is to just leave your ex alone for now - entirely alone. Just like you, he needs to sift through everything that is going on inside his heart and his head at the moment, and try to figure out what his next step will be.

Only when both of you have got to a stage where you are NOT feeling hurt and angry anymore, can you think of talking to each other. So do the right thing - let him have as much time as he needs to sort things out, and you do the same as well.

After a while, when you are both more approachable to each other, and more capable of talking calmly to each other, then make a call and try to win your ex boyfriend back. The break up will be behind you, you won't be angry with each other anymore, so your chances to get back together again will be a whole lot better.