Why Do I Stay With an Emotional Abuser When I Know They Cheat and Lie?
Why do I stay with an emotional abuser when I know they cheat and lie? A person in a healthy relationship would look at this question and think it was the most ludicrous question written.
To you, being that you are in a relationship with an emotional abuser, you look at the question and are sincerely asking yourself why you stay.
The very thought of being in an emotionally abusive relationship is reason enough to leave.
In many cases, however, the emotional abuser is not only abusing you emotionally and mentally by all the head games they play, but they are also violating the basic relational values of commitment and being truthful.
They cheat and lie.
You ask yourself, "Why do I stay with an emotional abuser when I know they cheat and lie?" It makes no sense and it should not make any sense.
If your self-esteem, the way you value yourself, is at the point where you will allow emotional abuse, then you are also at the point in your life that you will allow your significant other to cheat, lie, steal, and all sorts of other things.
This is a sad and disappointing truth.
A truth that it is time for you to look at.
Ask yourself, "Do I want emotional abuse in my life?" Ask yourself, "Do I want a partner that will cheat on me?" "Do I want a partner that will lie to me?" Are your answers to these three questions, "NO?" Then why do you stay? The answer is simple.
You are focusing on what you do not want and by focusing on what you do not want that is exactly what you are getting.
Successful people, the kind of people that live a life of fulfilled dreams continuously look at things they want in their life.
Happy and healthy relationships don't just happen for people.
Happy and healthy relationships are made by choices determined long before the relationship even begins.
The exciting thing about this is that you can begin to create what you want in your future just like people with healthy, happy relationships have done.
You're already in a relationship that is causing you nothing but pain, frustration, torment, and all those other descriptors that completely fall in the negative realm.
Use the exact opposite of what you feel in your relationship now and begin using those descriptors to help you write down what you want in a different relationship.
As you begin and continue to use this strategy, what you want will begin to change.
You will begin to more clearly see what you want.
At the current moment you're stuck focusing on what you don't want and you are stuck in your relationship.
Shift your focus to what you do want and feel what begins to happen.
You will literally begin to look at your partner differently.
Instead of the longing for them to change, you will begin to see them and their actions for what they are.
Their actions are their choices and they like them or they wouldn't do them.
You've expressed what you want and they purposely ignore your thoughts and feelings.
They are in one of two places.
Either they cannot change because they are broken or they don't care enough about you to change.
If they are broken and you're being driven crazy, then no matter how much you want to stay with them to help them, you're not going to make it and be sane in the end.
You will be as broken as them.
If that is your decision, that is acceptable.
You have the freedom to do with your life what you want.
There is no right or wrong here.
No judgment.
It is simply your choice and you will have out of this life what is determined by your choices.
If they don't care enough about you to change and stop hurting and emotionally abusing you, you're not going to make it and be sane in the end either.
If you're in either of these two places, you have one good thing going for you.
You are here at this moment reading this because you are trying to figure out, "Why do I stay with an emotional abuser when I know they cheat and lie?" You are here trying to get help and you found it.
The answer is simple.
The difficult thing now is for you to change.
Change from looking at what you don't want and look at what you want.
Visualize what you want, write down what you want and look at what you wrote as many times through the day as possible.
Why do I stay with an emotional abuser when I know they cheat and lie? I stay because I am focusing on what I don't want instead of what I do want.
To you, being that you are in a relationship with an emotional abuser, you look at the question and are sincerely asking yourself why you stay.
The very thought of being in an emotionally abusive relationship is reason enough to leave.
In many cases, however, the emotional abuser is not only abusing you emotionally and mentally by all the head games they play, but they are also violating the basic relational values of commitment and being truthful.
They cheat and lie.
You ask yourself, "Why do I stay with an emotional abuser when I know they cheat and lie?" It makes no sense and it should not make any sense.
If your self-esteem, the way you value yourself, is at the point where you will allow emotional abuse, then you are also at the point in your life that you will allow your significant other to cheat, lie, steal, and all sorts of other things.
This is a sad and disappointing truth.
A truth that it is time for you to look at.
Ask yourself, "Do I want emotional abuse in my life?" Ask yourself, "Do I want a partner that will cheat on me?" "Do I want a partner that will lie to me?" Are your answers to these three questions, "NO?" Then why do you stay? The answer is simple.
You are focusing on what you do not want and by focusing on what you do not want that is exactly what you are getting.
Successful people, the kind of people that live a life of fulfilled dreams continuously look at things they want in their life.
Happy and healthy relationships don't just happen for people.
Happy and healthy relationships are made by choices determined long before the relationship even begins.
The exciting thing about this is that you can begin to create what you want in your future just like people with healthy, happy relationships have done.
You're already in a relationship that is causing you nothing but pain, frustration, torment, and all those other descriptors that completely fall in the negative realm.
Use the exact opposite of what you feel in your relationship now and begin using those descriptors to help you write down what you want in a different relationship.
As you begin and continue to use this strategy, what you want will begin to change.
You will begin to more clearly see what you want.
At the current moment you're stuck focusing on what you don't want and you are stuck in your relationship.
Shift your focus to what you do want and feel what begins to happen.
You will literally begin to look at your partner differently.
Instead of the longing for them to change, you will begin to see them and their actions for what they are.
Their actions are their choices and they like them or they wouldn't do them.
You've expressed what you want and they purposely ignore your thoughts and feelings.
They are in one of two places.
Either they cannot change because they are broken or they don't care enough about you to change.
If they are broken and you're being driven crazy, then no matter how much you want to stay with them to help them, you're not going to make it and be sane in the end.
You will be as broken as them.
If that is your decision, that is acceptable.
You have the freedom to do with your life what you want.
There is no right or wrong here.
No judgment.
It is simply your choice and you will have out of this life what is determined by your choices.
If they don't care enough about you to change and stop hurting and emotionally abusing you, you're not going to make it and be sane in the end either.
If you're in either of these two places, you have one good thing going for you.
You are here at this moment reading this because you are trying to figure out, "Why do I stay with an emotional abuser when I know they cheat and lie?" You are here trying to get help and you found it.
The answer is simple.
The difficult thing now is for you to change.
Change from looking at what you don't want and look at what you want.
Visualize what you want, write down what you want and look at what you wrote as many times through the day as possible.
Why do I stay with an emotional abuser when I know they cheat and lie? I stay because I am focusing on what I don't want instead of what I do want.
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