Can a Baby Save the Marriage?
Do you feel like everything is falling apart and all your attempts to save the marriage and keep your husband next to you seem destined to fail? Don't listen to the voices telling you a baby is your only shot! You do not want to bring a creature into the world just to blackmail your husband into remaining next to you.
Assuming you do it, and your spouse gives up on the painful idea of getting the divorce, how is that going to help you? He will never love you, and, no matter how much he will love your baby, he will never be able to compensate.
Now, you are convinced his presence is enough, but later on, when you'll see him thinking of someone else, wishing to be somewhere else, you'll want him to pay attention to you, to think of you.
And what about the nights when you'll go to bed next to him and he won't want to touch you, or he'll do it distant, mechanical and passionless? Are you ready for that? Are you ready for him shouting back at you one day and saying you ruined his chances at happiness? And that is just if he does decide to stay with you for the sake of the baby and try to save the marriage.
Yet, quite a few men walk away without thinking of what they leave behind, or they simply decide to take the responsibility, but outside the marriage.
What if he says he will take care of the baby but he still wants nothing to do with you? What if you end up in court, fighting for custody, or worse, ruining your baby's childhood with your fights and reproaches? It is cruel, and it is probably nothing of what you expected to hear, but just the fact that your are hurt and desperate doesn't give you the right to make harsh decisions, to play with an innocent life.
Later on, you may think of starting all over again, next to someone else.
Are you sure that person would accept your baby? Are your sure you are ready for the consequences? The truth is that, at the end of the day, each marriage and each relationship involves two parties.
When one wants out, the other has no right to prevent it.
If your husband loves you, if there are any chances for you too to remain together, you will surely find the way back to one another, the solution to save the marriage you so much treasure, your way to happiness.
Assuming you do it, and your spouse gives up on the painful idea of getting the divorce, how is that going to help you? He will never love you, and, no matter how much he will love your baby, he will never be able to compensate.
Now, you are convinced his presence is enough, but later on, when you'll see him thinking of someone else, wishing to be somewhere else, you'll want him to pay attention to you, to think of you.
And what about the nights when you'll go to bed next to him and he won't want to touch you, or he'll do it distant, mechanical and passionless? Are you ready for that? Are you ready for him shouting back at you one day and saying you ruined his chances at happiness? And that is just if he does decide to stay with you for the sake of the baby and try to save the marriage.
Yet, quite a few men walk away without thinking of what they leave behind, or they simply decide to take the responsibility, but outside the marriage.
What if he says he will take care of the baby but he still wants nothing to do with you? What if you end up in court, fighting for custody, or worse, ruining your baby's childhood with your fights and reproaches? It is cruel, and it is probably nothing of what you expected to hear, but just the fact that your are hurt and desperate doesn't give you the right to make harsh decisions, to play with an innocent life.
Later on, you may think of starting all over again, next to someone else.
Are you sure that person would accept your baby? Are your sure you are ready for the consequences? The truth is that, at the end of the day, each marriage and each relationship involves two parties.
When one wants out, the other has no right to prevent it.
If your husband loves you, if there are any chances for you too to remain together, you will surely find the way back to one another, the solution to save the marriage you so much treasure, your way to happiness.
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